Just because I’m gay doesn’t make me a sissy. I don’t have any inclination to dress in drag, not even for halloween. I’m not one of the girls. I don’t refer to my male friends as girlfriends. I don’t obsess about how I look while in public. I prefer a firm handshake to a kiss on the lips except with that special guy. I don’t only socialize with other gay men. I don’t talk with a lisp. And I don’t sleep around.
Similarly, just because I’m Asian doesn’t mean I’m a little, submissive twinkie who is less masculine. I’m not smarter because I’m Asian. I don’t have squinty eyes. And the only accent I have is a Canadian one.
What I’m saying is, I hate being stereotyped. It is by far, my biggest pet peeve and it is something I find very offensive. Yes, there are things that I enjoy that can be classified as being part of the gay stereotype. I used to compete gymnastics but I’m also a hockey fan (and for the record, most of the other guys I knew in gymnastics were straight). I like to bake and cook but also like to build things. I actually enjoy a good “chick flick” and it was embarrassing being on a plane, watching The Notebook for the first time (I shouldn’t be allowed to watch such movies in public). However, I love my action, horror and sci-fi movies as well.
I’m not really sure what my point is except that I am who I am. An unique individual who is not a cliché. Please don’t treat me like one.
